The Way to A Happy Life

Life never seems to be the way we want it.

Whenever we want time to pass faster, it seems to go slower. Whenever we want it to slow down, it speeds up. When we are in school, we want a holiday. When we are having a holiday, we think of school. When we are young, we want to grow up. When we are old, we want to be young again.

I guess this is life.

We have to learn to live with it and find the beauty in it. If we always get what we want, then i think we would never appreciate what we have. Yet, how should we deal with all this?

To have a happy life, we have to be CONTENTED.

Of course this is easier said than done. We are living in a materialistic world. Our wants are always so hard to satisfy. But if we never ever took time to realise how much we have, we would never be contented. We are all blessed with boundless gifts. We only need to take the effort to discover them.

I Love ME

That’s right! I love myself! Quite alot actually. =D Now, don’t go thinking i am narcissistic.

You are going to live with yourself for the rest of your life. Face it. The only person who has spent every moment of your life with you is YOU (and GOD -of course! Sorry to those atheists out there who don’t believe in a GOD but i sincerely do! =D ) So if you don’t learn to love yourself, you are definitely going to suffer quite a bit cause not everyone will like you.

OK! So once we’ve established the fact that i love me, I really don’t get those jokers who self-mutilate. (Don’t even talk about those who commit suicide) I mean, fine. Say you do have your reasons: you need to relieve stress, you need to feel pain…. RUBBISH! My message to you is please grow up! Maybe i am too lucky to have felt the need to slash myself. No matter what happens i don’t think i would ever dare to purposely injure myself. I admit i don’t dare but i guess this stems from a love of myself.

People thrive on love and affirmation. So if you feel that you are lacking them, give it to yourself! You can tell yourself that you did a good job and give yourself a treat! Not everyone will approve of what you do, so if you think you did well, give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.

Besides loving myself, of course i love those around me. Especially my family. I love to go home. I always have this yearning to go home. I guess i feel the warmth that my home brings. I must admit that i am very lucky in this area to be in such a loving family =D It chills my heart to think what would happen if one day, anyone of you are not there anymore. What would my life become? =( But i will learn. (hopefully)

Learn to love yourself =D

Activation Energy

I am not talking about Chemistry! Basically, i feel that we all have a certain ‘activation energy’ that we have to surpass before we are willing to do something. This is what i am currently experiencing as i face a whole load of revision to do.

Sometimes, it is not that we do not wish to study. We do know that time is running short and we should study (well. occasionally.like now.) But to really sit down and study is a totally different thing. Then we start to make excuses and delays for ourselves (like i am blogging now instead of erm studying…)and parents start accusing us of procrastinating… To me, this is just a problem of our activation energy in action. Once we do start studying, the story changes.(hopefully)

Another area I felt this activation energy coming into play is exercising.

Yes, we all know that exercising is good for us. I am sure many of us do not dislike exercising. But how many times do we actually exercise willingly for the sake of exercising? It is not easy, at least for me. Maybe thats why i am growing fat. =( Yet, once we make it a habit, i believe that this activation energy is lowered (not that it disappears) and it becomes easier to start exercsing.

Everyone’s activation energy is different and someone’s activation energy is different for every activity. This is what makes us unique. But we all need to surpass this energy barrier in order to start doing something.

Work?! Nah I Dont’t Think So.

As i am savouring my breakfast- red bean soup (YUM), i start on my first (well..2nd if you count the very 1st one LOL) ‘official’ post.

Hmm, i wanted to talk about this cause i always wondered why so many poeple work during their long holidays which i am currently super envious of!

I myself can’t decide whether i would actually want to work during these well deserved breaks. My first thought was NO if you can help it. I mean if you are financially ok why would you even want to work? Just laze around and get your rest! Why put yourself through a dreadful workday where you have you pull yourself out of bed everyday to face your superior or (if you choose the path of being a tuition teacher) your mischievous tutee, when you can choose exactly how you can spend the day (meeting up with long lost friends, watching your favourite drama or even take up a course etc.) Faced with the many wonderful options of what i can do with my free time, i was more inclined towards the “not-working” side.

Whenever i ask “Why work?” the most common reply i get is “You get extra cash” and i get a ‘duh~’ face.

To me, i am not exactly lacking cash (not that i am that rich..but more that i feel the freedom without work is more alluring). Besides, as my dad puts it, you will be working for the rest of your life! Furthermore, i also ever tried ‘working’ when i signed up for job shadowing previously. It is indeed an interesting experience. Yet, I always looked forward to going home and dreaded going to ‘work’ the next day.

However, if your break is like 6 months long, even the prospect of lazing around may seem to be a little ‘putting off’. Working also gives you experience. For example, if you just graduated from JC and have not applied to uni, why not try to secure a job that you are interested in and see for yourself whether you really like it or not.

So i haven’t really decided whether i would want to work or nor. But for now, i am really looking forward to the super long holiday!

For me, this is not exactly the best time to start a blog but then again if now is not then when would it be? After countless of self struggles whether i should actually create a blog of some sorts i FINALLY decided YES! then came the question of where to create my so-called blog…. and my final decision was WORDPRESS duh~~ =D